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Mercury in Retrograde: A few thoughts before it’s done

As I said before in the last  Mercury in Retrograde  post,  this isn’t a time of hocus pocus superstition where you have to be afraid to cross paths with the moonlight.  This time is a gift.

I wrote earlier today for a different publication on the subject of rejection.  Rejection, like Mercury being in retrograde is something that once we enter into its sphere, we all sit on the edge of our seats waiting for something painful.  Of course, the emotions and circumstances that Mercury’s orbit and rejection bring are not always pleasant, but it doesn’t mean we should run for high heaven when we see it coming either.

But that’s been covered.   We have 6 days left in this retrograde cycle and I want to encourage you to make the most of it.

As a mother of 3, running my own creative business, I have to constantly ward off my incredible ideas for a more appropriate time! I always jot the ideas down and come back to them, but I have to honor myself by not sending my mind into creative overkill. Of course, the kids benefit from that as well, but ultimately it’s my own sanity that I must honor. (It’s not about selfishly neglecting the children, it’s about sacrificing our need to *live* completely and settling for scrapbooks  when we were born to paint. It saddens me to hear of parents all over neglecting their ideas and dreams ‘for the sake of the family’ when the biggest detriment is the neglect of one’s passions.  However, I digress, and should leave that important tangent for another post.)

So what do you do when you are brimming with ideas but feel the retrograde whirlwind calling you to slow down?

Well, the state to be in during this time is simply one of “non-reaction”,  as  the physical environment will be changing continually during a Mercury retrograde. Treat this time period as a time dedicated to the of gathering information and aspiration.  But look on carefully in observance.  Write down your thoughts.  Consider your options, possibilities and limitations.  But, wait until the changes stop before attempting to put things into order. Then, once Mercury turns direct again, take a look at the information that is still around at that time, assess it  and  THEN begin your action, all the  while maintaining the fine art of flexibility.

So many of my clients  have respectfully turned introspective during this time and I can’t stress enough how happy I am that they are doing so.   It’s ok to honor yourself, your business and family by putting major travel, business and extra commitments on hold while you close your eyes and ground your feet.

You have a great gift to offer the world with your talents and expertise and I’m not surprised to hear that you are anxious to get things rolling.

In the end, you know what’s best for yourself.  Sometimes you need help forging a road or strategizing the idea (and that’s what I’m here for!) but it’s also ok to take things in stride as long as you are dedicated on your path to growth, freedom, success and ultimately, bliss!

So there you have it!  A pep talk for the next  6 days.

But don’t get too comfortable. When March 1st rolls around,  I absolutely expect you to be ready to rock and get your talented ass into forward motion.

You deserve to live a beautiful life.

Want more?  I’m happy to coach you through your personal empowerment or even re-invention.  If you’re tired of living in a state of ‘When is it my turn?”, then let’s talk.  That’s a toxic mantra and you have a life to experience.

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Mercury in Retrograde? No Problem. You’ve Got This.

Mercury in Retrograde?  No Problem.  You've Got This.

 

One of the most highly discussed topics on social media right now is that of Mercury being in retrograde. What does this mean for everyone? Are we all doomed to experiencing emotional roller coasters, things breaking and businesses going sour? No. …. or yes. Well.. Let me explain.

I feel like you probably know the history behind this confusing topic, but if not, let me divulge for a moment. Mercury goes through this phenomenon about 3 to 4 times in a year and for about 3 weeks at a time where the planet appears to slow down, stop and then go backwards a bit. However, it’s more of a pause – an optical illusion while the rest of us must continue to orbit in forward motion in our daily lives. In reality, all retrogrades show us that it is sometimes more important slow down and reflect on the inward than simply remain focused on the outer. Robert Wilkinson writes, in his Aquarius Papers, “…While it seems as though Mercury retrograde is associated with things that malfunction and miscommunications and delays, we must remember that in actuality, no planet or its influence is good or bad unto itself. We are the ones who determine our ‘destiny,’ based on our choices, which shape our character. In that sense, ‘character is destiny,’ and so we have the responsibility to determine whether we will be active or passive in responding to life’s challenges.”

As with all retrogrades, we can use this time to take a reflect on the things of the past, or even what has recently begun. This current one helps us to re-shape our minds, understanding, perspectives and processes by taking current observations into past feelings, filling in some aspects or elements we previously didn’t understand that could set the stage that would allow us to forgive or have compassion for something we went through.

That being said, I have to admit that I didn’t know retrograde was upon us until my spastic emotional highs and lows whispered (or shouted) into my subconscious, that something bigger was happening in and all around me. I felt incredibly happy and excited about this, but at the same time, ready to bawl my eyes out. Why, you may ask? Well, I’m sure I don’t know! That’s what this whole retrograde thing is all about, right??

🙂

This isn’t necessarily a ‘bad’ thing. I know people (myself included) who are apt to post cautionary calls to awareness, but in truth, this occasional visitor arrives with an intention to give. We have the opportunity to use this time to follow in it’s path; to stop, pause, look back and reflect. It’s a time when people are more intuitive and that old buried shit seems to come back for us to more fully deal with.

Because we are operating from a more sensitive, dare I say, more emotional state, we are advised to stay away from signing contracts, venturing in to new markets, starting/ending a relationship … In short – this is NOT the time to make major decisions. It IS time to sit down and reflect on your personal healing, growth, needs, goals, desires …. and where you are on your road to bliss.

I realized that for my life, I need to take better care of myself and plan ahead to include those times that feed and fuel the natural motivated and excited energy within me. That is my natural state. But starve the spirit, especially when it is most in need, is to engage in self-sabotage. THAT is the shadow side of Mercury being in retrograde.

I believe that incredible things and opportunities are about to get amazing for everyone – but you won’t be able to experience them if you remain stuck in this potential bad mode/energy. Now, more than ever, surround yourself with uplifting people and create proactive, positive practices in your life.

You may even want to temporarily change how you ‘do life’. We all desperately need to take care of ourselves right now. Take baths when possible, nap occasionally, meditate, write, read, laugh, hang with friends, get in to your bodies, play …

So, give to yourself. Get happy. Eat healthy, be active, meditate, express yourself and have grace with your weaknesses. If you aren’t loving yourself, if you aren’t happy, you will only stunt the progression of possibility.

What do you do when retrograde strikes?   What gets you through with a smile on your face?  Let me know in the comments below!

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See Your Desire & BE it.

 

Here are 3 Tips on Finding Time For YOU!

Here are 3 Tips on Finding Time For YOU!

After having an emotionally and physically exhausting week, I knew something needed to give. Have you ever felt that way?? I have been traveling and working a lot. It got to that point where I went out with my partner to see a friend’s band play, parked the car and just wanted to bawl my eyes out. I wanted to curl up in the driver’s seat, cry and just sleep for weeks.

I was mad. Frustrated, exhausted and overwhelmed. So much of it came from this anger inside that knew, ‘THIS ISN’T ME’. I am a believer in good, beauty, possibilities and bliss!! There’s no crying in bliss!! …right?

The reality is, that our true bliss is often discovered through the honesty of our tears. We know that exhaustion calls us to find inner peace and rest, but we can’t seem to shake the other reality – that damn cycle we get caught in call the ‘busyness of life’! As a woman with 3 kids, a business, a relationship, home, etc… I know what exhausted looks like and what I can tell you, is that the most important thing you can do is LOVE you. Take time for you. MAKE time for you.

So, what is your YOU practice? What gets you grounded and able to call in the truth that sets you free? If you’re ever feeling low and stuck on ideas– here are a few tips for daily grounding in the eye of a storm:

1. Say NO. Being a people pleaser is something many of us have a subconscious, guilt driven desire to succeed at. We’d never want to actually have the title – we just want everyone to be happy and taken care of. This isn’t totally a bad thing, until we do it at all odds. Far too often, we sacrifice our health, time and well being just to keep everyone happy. From little things like over scheduling to much greater things like staying in a toxic relationship – we say yes, because we don’t want to let people (even ourselves) down. But here’s a little extra trick for you: If there is something you believe needs to be done – close your eyes and check how it feels. Do you feel good about it? Or do you feel heavy like there’s a fearful guilt and obligation battle going on inside your gut? Well – we are meant to feel light. And the right choice for you will feel right. Our true essence has a gentle voice that always pulls us toward the direction of our greater good. Go with it. You don’t have to fully understand it – but the peace and love you are left with will prove itself and in the end, you will be a more full person for the next thing you are meant to contribute to.

2. On that note, LOVE YOURSELF THROUGH EVERY BLOCK. I don’t care how you do it. Whether it’s through good company, a yoga class, going to bed early, making a cup of tea and sitting in silence for 5 minutes, prayer, affirmations… there’s really an endless list available to you here. Be creative and start thinking!! What makes you breathe deeper and feel rooted? For me, I have to be honest – of course, the normal things help, like being in nature, saunas and the like help immensely. But for me my top five are meditation, proper diet, exercise, laughter and sex. So there you have it. Every one is different – and as I write this, I realize that this point is probably mean to be a topic all on it’s own. (What do you think? Want to hear more on this?)

3. Give yourself a round of APPLAUSE. Because you’re pretty damn amazing. Look at all the things you’ve accomplished, the places you’ve been, what you’ve come through and how you’ve grown!! I’m proud of you and you should be proud too. We are so quick to take edit of ourselves. Both sexes stand in the mirror and rip there curves (and lack thereof) apart, we relive our setbacks and replay that moment in our day when ego took over and we used our ‘superior intelligence’ to over rule the people in our wake…. OK – not good but you also get the point. YES – you are a person with weaknesses and strengths. Sometimes you’re going to be on it and other times you just seem to fall down. But if I know you – you are also the one that falls and gets back up again. You already recognize where you could have done it better. So quit beating yourself up about it and learn from it. See where the compassion and patience can increase in your heart, while also seeing the abundance that already exists in you.

*BONUS TIP: VALUE YOUR SLEEP. This one is like accessing an extra super power because it can be used pre-emptively. I know for myself and many others, I just can’t function with my eyes burning, head aching and knowing that the only thing I want while I COULD be productive- is my pillow. Imagine if we gave a little more love to our pillows BEFORE our adrenals burn out? Trust me – arranging your schedule so you sleep longer a few nights a week will do you and everyone around you, well.

We are a race of beings that have incredible divine potential for love, expression, connectedness and abundance. I know that our modern life demands a lot, regardless of your status, nationality or religion. But no matter who you are or what your situation may be, if you are not connected to your true essence, then you will miss out on the greatest beauties in life.

External demands leave us feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious and frustrated. Internal connectedness allows us to see beyond the stresses of external demand and live through the experience in an awareness that not only sets us up for success but also leaves us in a state of divine gratitude. This is the beautiful cycle we should encourage.

This is your power. Live it.

3 Points for LIVING YOUR PASSION that will ENRICH and INSPIRE you.

3 Points for LIVING YOUR PASSION that will ENRICH and INSPIRE you.

You’ve probably watched and read plenty of information already about manifesting what you want into your life and setting intentions to create abundance. Maybe you are excitedly experiencing the success of it all but maybe you are in the doubting frustrated crowd that have ‘been there – tried that’ to no avail.

I’ve been on both sides. One feels incredible and the other one just sucks, to be honest. (and that’s usually the time when negative people show their faces to further fuel that doubt)

So… What’s the deal?? Why does it work for some and not others?

There are a couple things to consider. We will start with the most common ones.

1. As you set your intention, choose your words wisely.
So often, we write down a list or think in our mind of how we would like our lives, relationships, careers or how to change our circumstances, but we unknowingly focus only on what we want to change rather that the change we would like to see occur. Maybe you are in a bad relationship and you are ready to be treated with love and respect. It will not help at all so simply say “I want a better relationship”. Yes, it’s true, but it speaks from the perspective of lack and wanting. Rather – recognize the problem and move on to the next point.

2. Get emotionally involved and speak with gratitude.
You’ve recognized that there is a problem but it just seems to cycle and continue. Why? You have only given the problem a name and wished for more. Instead, close your eyes. Imagine the way you would like to be treated. Imagine the words you’d like to hear, the touch you would like to feel, the feelings you would like to experience. Smile, even if you don’t believe it. And really imagine a partner treating you with the deepest amount of love and respect. *(Now, this can be hard for some because they, on some level, do not feel they are deserving of such love and respect. If that’s so, then there is a deeper lesson here and I’m happy to talk to you and walk with you as you learn to more deeply love yourself. Love from another reflects the love we have for ourselves.)
Now that you feel the reality of those words, the touch and the experiences… hold deep gratitude in your heart for them. Say thank you. Be proud that your see your worth and are ready to receive more love into your life. And then,

3. BE your gratitude and intention.
Yes. BE IT. We can keep going with the relationship analogy, but this applies to anything you choose to bring more of in your life. In your relationships where you want more love and respect, BE love. BE respect to both your partner and yourself. (and if there is abuse, be love and respect to both of you, even if that means loving enough to leave.)
With your career, BE that person. BE the success. Proclaim and be the professional, the musician, the healer, the entrepreneur, the confident one!
Want more respect? Be respectful. Want to be more appreciated? Show more appreciation.
With money … No joke – BE the MONEY. It doesn’t have to always make sense; have fun with it! Smile and acknowledge that life has the power to be as limiting or magical as we create it to be.

I call these ‘Complimentary Actions of Intention.’

Recognize the change or thing you are ready for. Close your eyes and feel the existence of it emotionally. And then, really live in that state of being.

The key is to locate the desired emotion at the root of your intention or what you are looking to manifest and attract into your life. When you are able to separate this process from simply a method of manifestation and into a deep spiritual practice, then you will begin to see the beauty in it and how you can grow in the most beautiful and humbling ways.

I start my day by sitting quietly, closing my eyes and going through my list of intentions. It goes a little like this and sets a wonderful foundation for your meditation and practice of intention.

Today, I desire: Peace. Love. Respect. Abundance. Health. Patience. Closeness.
Today I am thankful for: Peace. Love. Respect. Abundance. Health. Patience. Closeness.
Today I will BE: Peace. Love. Respect. Abundance. Health. Patience. Closeness.

Saying each intention slowly and really picturing the desire, the thankfulness and the BEING of each emotion, allows what matches that frequency into your path. At the start of my work day, I know I want to be productive and successful but not neglect my health, relationships, home or children. I will do my best in these things when I am present and BEING my desires.

Look at is as a personal prayer; a way to begin your day with foreshadowed accomplishment and grace.

You are worth receiving all the love, beauty and abundance there is to experience. So start with yourself.

As Gandhi said, “BE the change you want to see in the world.” You want your reality to change?

It starts with you.

Namaste,

Navae
For empowerment life coaching, consulting and creative strategy, get in touch. Life is calling.
DIVE IN TO BLISS. #desireandbe

LADIES! What if you could make MORE of your LIFE?

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I regularly meet with the most amazing people who are energized and ready to really live and do what they love.

But they are STUCK.

We often FEEL stuck, because we are so busy trying to please everyone around us as if our martyrdom is our ‘gift’ to mankind (or just our family) … But in the end, the best gift you can leave with humanity is to love and respect yourself enough to be true to your dreams, desires and gifts.  I’m not talking about ego crazy self-indulgence here – but good old fashioned self respect and worth. We live in a society that esteems us based on our appearance, accomplishments and self sacrifice. I know, as a mother, that it’s all too easy to give and give, thinking I’m performing my humble service – when in reality, when I do that, I’m only giving them a burnt out woman.

It’s time for a paradigm shift, friends! WHAT IF, that spirit of universal motherhood in all of us, was calling us to a life of divine bliss, compassion and incredible fulfillment? I believe it is, wholly and loud, ready to rock your reality!

LADIES. We’ve spent far too long trying to be what everyone else wants us to be. It’s time for CHANGE. Now, I don’t know your background or what you have been through. But I have lived. I’ve done what people told me was the ‘RIGHT THING TO DO’ and I’ve ‘rebelled’ against those things too. I’ve been treated like people’s property with no RESPECT for my body or my voice. I married young, created beautiful children, loved what I made but forgot how to LOVE myself. I forgot my PASSIONS. I neglected my CREATIVITY. It wasn’t long before my downward spiral led me to a darkness that left me feeling alone, empty and rejected. But then, as it always does, THE LIGHT RETURNED and I learned what it truly meant to LOVE myself. To DEMAND THE BEST and to be fully present IN THE BEAUTY OF LIFE. The future was mine to CREATE. INSPIRATION was IGNITED and my fired BURNED. I received love, laughter, healing and FREEDOM from my past. It was time to LIVE AGAIN…. But for the first time. This JOY born in me is contagious. And I have every INTENTION to spread it.

ARE YOU READY?

LET’S DO THIS THING.

TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE.

DIVE IN TO DESIRE.

FOLLOW YOUR BLISS.

*For those who are ready to live fully and dive in to bliss, I invite you to join us for the “Dive In to Bliss” Course to beginning Feb. 5, 2014. It is a 6 week, online introduction into empowerment for the dormant or unsatisfied sould with a desire for MORE in life. Please email with interest and I look forward to igniting your year!
navae@solomonartistry.com

Travel Light, Be the Light

1514431_10202289448071125_276460936_nIt’s New Years again.  Hashtags like #resolution & #dietfail get to claim their place on the trending belt, while hopes, dreams and goals, flirted with for a few weeks, are predictably set on a shelf for the rest of the year and revisited around Christmas. (at best)

Why is that??  Well, let’s back it up a little bit here.  Every year, December rolls around with all the hustle and bustle that we all know is coming.  Some have a nostalgic association with the busy holiday while others remain proudly unaffiliated.  But with all the lights, giving and family gatherings, we seem to subconsciously (or consciously) begin to take an assessment of our lives, whether it be family, finances, relationship, careers…  Then the bitterness sets in.

It reminds me of what I went through a while back.  I had just divorced and  was living in less than desirable conditions with my 3 children.  We had just decorated our beautiful Christmas tree and were sitting in the glow of the golden lights, as I quickly transformed in to the scroogiest version of myself.  Suddenly, I felt so overwhelmed with anger toward everyone.  I was angry at my upbringing, my failed marriage, my drifting dreams, my abuse, feeling forgotten by my family … and all this pain became the justification for my constant partying and searching for whatever would ease the pain of betrayal and self loathing.

But then…  as it tends to happen…  just as I was content to swim in my self pity, life beckoned me to awaken and see the truth.  I betrayed MYSELF.

I was angry at the abuse, rejection and betrayal that other people had inflicted on me and forgotten to see that the biggest betrayal of them all, was to let them determine who I AM and what I deserve.

~ I swear, this is going somewhere wonderful, so keep with me here … your heart will thank you! ~

In the time of the year where the days are longest and the darkness feels maddening …  light whispers of it’s return and we are inspired to live again.  The year shifts and we are given an opportunity to renew, be healthy, love, succeed …. and just try.  But the fear of the darkness, judgement, failure and rejection stunt our attempts, leaving us frustrated and discouraged at what we have chosen to believe as ‘lack of self discipline’, ‘weakness’ or ….’it’s just the way I am’.

It’s time to answer the call of the light and FEEL LIGHT.  BE LIGHT.  Stop living in the fear of not pleasing the people around you and please yourself!  I’m not asking that we all become immersed in our ego’s, but for goodness sake, stop playing the martyr by sacrificing yourself to your jobs and family; and then proceeding to resent them for your limitations!  You are only limited by your beliefs.

What if the New Year came with *internal* resolutions?  We are so quick to set external goals and get pissed at the external circumstances that get in our way.  But internal?  That’s all yours, friend. You are the owner of your heart, soul and mind.   The inward change is what creates outward results.   By recognizing that you have the power to place yourself in healthy situations, to set boundaries, to learn self respect and self love …  these are the resolutions that create change.

Life is too short to sit around abusing yourself for what you haven’t done yet.  You want change?  You want to grow and follow what makes you feel alive!  YOU CAN.  You are the only one in your way.  So step aside and find yourself in gratitude for the beauty and allow it to multiply.  What we focus on determines our direction and what we will experience.  The lies and baggage we carry on our shoulders, slow us down and limit us from living the possibilities out there waiting for us!  Let them go.  Be the master of your heart and choose to love yourself unconditionally.

Don’t let other’s determine your destiny… rather, forge your road and travel it well.  Leave behind the heavy burden of resentment, fear and anger …. Travel light.  BE the light.  Be YOU…. and resolutions will follow.

#desireandbe

*as it can be in life, if this journey of change and self empowerment is calling you but feels too enormous to tackle alone, I’m here to coach you through it.  Empowerment life coaching and Creative Strategy: Desire first and be in touch…  I’m just an email away  navae@solomonartistry.com http://www.navaeinspired.com