It’s New Years again. Hashtags like #resolution & #dietfail get to claim their place on the trending belt, while hopes, dreams and goals, flirted with for a few weeks, are predictably set on a shelf for the rest of the year and revisited around Christmas. (at best)
Why is that?? Well, let’s back it up a little bit here. Every year, December rolls around with all the hustle and bustle that we all know is coming. Some have a nostalgic association with the busy holiday while others remain proudly unaffiliated. But with all the lights, giving and family gatherings, we seem to subconsciously (or consciously) begin to take an assessment of our lives, whether it be family, finances, relationship, careers… Then the bitterness sets in.
It reminds me of what I went through a while back. I had just divorced and was living in less than desirable conditions with my 3 children. We had just decorated our beautiful Christmas tree and were sitting in the glow of the golden lights, as I quickly transformed in to the scroogiest version of myself. Suddenly, I felt so overwhelmed with anger toward everyone. I was angry at my upbringing, my failed marriage, my drifting dreams, my abuse, feeling forgotten by my family … and all this pain became the justification for my constant partying and searching for whatever would ease the pain of betrayal and self loathing.
But then… as it tends to happen… just as I was content to swim in my self pity, life beckoned me to awaken and see the truth. I betrayed MYSELF.
I was angry at the abuse, rejection and betrayal that other people had inflicted on me and forgotten to see that the biggest betrayal of them all, was to let them determine who I AM and what I deserve.
~ I swear, this is going somewhere wonderful, so keep with me here … your heart will thank you! ~
In the time of the year where the days are longest and the darkness feels maddening … light whispers of it’s return and we are inspired to live again. The year shifts and we are given an opportunity to renew, be healthy, love, succeed …. and just try. But the fear of the darkness, judgement, failure and rejection stunt our attempts, leaving us frustrated and discouraged at what we have chosen to believe as ‘lack of self discipline’, ‘weakness’ or ….’it’s just the way I am’.
It’s time to answer the call of the light and FEEL LIGHT. BE LIGHT. Stop living in the fear of not pleasing the people around you and please yourself! I’m not asking that we all become immersed in our ego’s, but for goodness sake, stop playing the martyr by sacrificing yourself to your jobs and family; and then proceeding to resent them for your limitations! You are only limited by your beliefs.
What if the New Year came with *internal* resolutions? We are so quick to set external goals and get pissed at the external circumstances that get in our way. But internal? That’s all yours, friend. You are the owner of your heart, soul and mind. The inward change is what creates outward results. By recognizing that you have the power to place yourself in healthy situations, to set boundaries, to learn self respect and self love … these are the resolutions that create change.
Life is too short to sit around abusing yourself for what you haven’t done yet. You want change? You want to grow and follow what makes you feel alive! YOU CAN. You are the only one in your way. So step aside and find yourself in gratitude for the beauty and allow it to multiply. What we focus on determines our direction and what we will experience. The lies and baggage we carry on our shoulders, slow us down and limit us from living the possibilities out there waiting for us! Let them go. Be the master of your heart and choose to love yourself unconditionally.
Don’t let other’s determine your destiny… rather, forge your road and travel it well. Leave behind the heavy burden of resentment, fear and anger …. Travel light. BE the light. Be YOU…. and resolutions will follow.
*as it can be in life, if this journey of change and self empowerment is calling you but feels too enormous to tackle alone, I’m here to coach you through it. Empowerment life coaching and Creative Strategy: Desire first and be in touch… I’m just an email away firstname.lastname@example.org http://www.navaeinspired.com