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Travel Light, Be the Light

1514431_10202289448071125_276460936_nIt’s New Years again.  Hashtags like #resolution & #dietfail get to claim their place on the trending belt, while hopes, dreams and goals, flirted with for a few weeks, are predictably set on a shelf for the rest of the year and revisited around Christmas. (at best)

Why is that??  Well, let’s back it up a little bit here.  Every year, December rolls around with all the hustle and bustle that we all know is coming.  Some have a nostalgic association with the busy holiday while others remain proudly unaffiliated.  But with all the lights, giving and family gatherings, we seem to subconsciously (or consciously) begin to take an assessment of our lives, whether it be family, finances, relationship, careers…  Then the bitterness sets in.

It reminds me of what I went through a while back.  I had just divorced and  was living in less than desirable conditions with my 3 children.  We had just decorated our beautiful Christmas tree and were sitting in the glow of the golden lights, as I quickly transformed in to the scroogiest version of myself.  Suddenly, I felt so overwhelmed with anger toward everyone.  I was angry at my upbringing, my failed marriage, my drifting dreams, my abuse, feeling forgotten by my family … and all this pain became the justification for my constant partying and searching for whatever would ease the pain of betrayal and self loathing.

But then…  as it tends to happen…  just as I was content to swim in my self pity, life beckoned me to awaken and see the truth.  I betrayed MYSELF.

I was angry at the abuse, rejection and betrayal that other people had inflicted on me and forgotten to see that the biggest betrayal of them all, was to let them determine who I AM and what I deserve.

~ I swear, this is going somewhere wonderful, so keep with me here … your heart will thank you! ~

In the time of the year where the days are longest and the darkness feels maddening …  light whispers of it’s return and we are inspired to live again.  The year shifts and we are given an opportunity to renew, be healthy, love, succeed …. and just try.  But the fear of the darkness, judgement, failure and rejection stunt our attempts, leaving us frustrated and discouraged at what we have chosen to believe as ‘lack of self discipline’, ‘weakness’ or ….’it’s just the way I am’.

It’s time to answer the call of the light and FEEL LIGHT.  BE LIGHT.  Stop living in the fear of not pleasing the people around you and please yourself!  I’m not asking that we all become immersed in our ego’s, but for goodness sake, stop playing the martyr by sacrificing yourself to your jobs and family; and then proceeding to resent them for your limitations!  You are only limited by your beliefs.

What if the New Year came with *internal* resolutions?  We are so quick to set external goals and get pissed at the external circumstances that get in our way.  But internal?  That’s all yours, friend. You are the owner of your heart, soul and mind.   The inward change is what creates outward results.   By recognizing that you have the power to place yourself in healthy situations, to set boundaries, to learn self respect and self love …  these are the resolutions that create change.

Life is too short to sit around abusing yourself for what you haven’t done yet.  You want change?  You want to grow and follow what makes you feel alive!  YOU CAN.  You are the only one in your way.  So step aside and find yourself in gratitude for the beauty and allow it to multiply.  What we focus on determines our direction and what we will experience.  The lies and baggage we carry on our shoulders, slow us down and limit us from living the possibilities out there waiting for us!  Let them go.  Be the master of your heart and choose to love yourself unconditionally.

Don’t let other’s determine your destiny… rather, forge your road and travel it well.  Leave behind the heavy burden of resentment, fear and anger …. Travel light.  BE the light.  Be YOU…. and resolutions will follow.

#desireandbe

*as it can be in life, if this journey of change and self empowerment is calling you but feels too enormous to tackle alone, I’m here to coach you through it.  Empowerment life coaching and Creative Strategy: Desire first and be in touch…  I’m just an email away  navae@solomonartistry.com http://www.navaeinspired.com

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Come now, let’s be Unreasonable…

You know that secret box you keep under the bed and hope to holy heaven that no one ever finds? Or maybe it’s not a physical box, but you know you have one in your mind. For some it contains little messages, written to self, that proclaim the deep desire to learn to sing. (yikes!) Or move to Italy. (mmmm….) What about letting your sexy wild side out in bed? (spicy!) Or do something noble like sell your business and commit to an orphanage in Mexico or China?

All of the above and alike are desires that people everywhere all over the globe have tucked away secretly but are too afraid to really pursue. Why? Because everyone has a reason they can’t! Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of loneliness…

In this short but sweet post, I have a favor to ask of you.

Get out that box and look through it. Finger through the photos in your mind, of the places you desperately want to travel to. Imagine what it would feel like to be surrounded by the people that inspire you. See yourself doing what it is you always wished you could do, but dismissed, because of lack of money, support, courage or drive … and awaken the passion. Just see how it feels and swim in it. How does your spirit feel? Are you smiling?

Be unreasonable. Think outside the box and imagine a reality that’s more colorful and full of more possibilities. And for heaven’s sake – don’t get caught up in “that could never happen” !! All I asked of you was to entertain the imagery and to involve your senses.

I can’t say if we have one life or more, but what I do know is that a life lived without passion is a waste of life. There are so many possibilities out there but so many people get hung up on the most limiting question: HOW? Really?? So many creative and innovative individuals and we let ourselves get short stopped by that damn three letter word.

What if we change the question? You want to change your life? I can help you. Step one and two: Change your thinking and change the questions. Begin to ask yourself, “What is possible that I’ve never allowed to be possible?” Don’t try to answer it… Just ask… You’d be surprised at the inspiration that will follow.

I hope you allow for unreasonable ideas to flow into your incredible mind today. Allow your imagination to be enlightened and match those desperate desires inside of you.

If that overwhelms you, that’s ok. This can be a rough process, but that’s why I’m here to help. Feel free to contact me and I’ll be happy to creatively coach you through the next steps. I don’t want to see anyone limited in their dreams and aspirations.

Be Unreasonable. Dare to dream. Dare to be.

Yours Truly,
http://www.navaeinspired.com

Wonder Woman & Miracle Max

Wonder Woman.  We all know about her.  Miracle Max?  You know, he’s the witch doctor played by Billy Crystal in The Princess Bride.  IF you haven’t seen The Princess Bride, grab your beverage of choice and indulge in that incredible cult classic.

Getting back to the point.  What I want to talk about is a kind of ‘mom thing’ at face value.   But whether you are a parent or not – there are truths here for you; either that you will relate to, or at the very least give you a reason to cut the rest of us some slack or treat us to a well-earned spa day.

It’s incredible how  a cold snap in the weather or an unexpected flu can cause you to take what you THOUGHT you were going to get done that day and force you into an extra degree of creativity.  I realized today that though I did hours of computer work, I hardly sat down.  Every 10 minutes, I was needed for food, drink, band-aids, ice packs, hugs or mediation!

However, as these announcements of hunger and boredom began to layer themselves in my ears, I remembered how incredibly lucky I am. These moments of chaos can either blind us with anger or allow us the opportunity to see beyond the veil of confusion and panic to see the joy and beauty that’s all around.  This day like every other had limitless possibilities for joy, love and abundance and I was hell-bent on swimming in it!

What if……   What if these stretches of repeated chaos are simply arriving in our reality to allow us to see beyond? What if these circumstances are giving us a chance to see what we really CAN do with that wonder woman cape of ours?  What kind of miracles could we create in our families, homes, dreams and careers?  You know….  miracles hardly happen during the calm.   They tend to happen in the storm.

In the end, I have to say that in my ‘wasted work day’ there was a treasure to be found.  What I thought was bound for failure, instead gave birth to new ideas and projects that I’m SO excited to get busy on. (stay tuned!) But in the end… that’s the point!  I chose not to limit my day by a near sighted ‘realistic’ perspective… rather took the chance to ask, “What else is possible, today?!”  Because these are the questions that invoke action and creation.

So this is what I will leave you with:

What do you desire to feel?  Who do you desire to be?  Feel it.  Be it.   Chase after what others deem impossible and be the miracle.